Let up?

I belong to two of the four NGOs you mentioned.

I think they are saying accept him as the winner of the election. I don't think they mean to give him a free pass. As I said, I think the best course of action is to support him when he is right and oppose him when he is wrong.

I have been to inaugural balls for the last 5 Presidents (Yes going back to Reagan), but I am passing on this one. I would have passed on Hillary tickets too (Went to Bill's). The guy sickens me, but he is our President.

Do what you got to do Murphy. If the goal is to remind him that he was not supported and you don't agree with his policies have at it. (no this is not some sort of granting you permission, just an acknowledgement of your cause)

I will say that the Democrats have already started talking about blocking him at every turn. A practice they found reprehensible by the Republicans. I guess the point is that both sides would have been upset by the outcome and were going to fight it no matter what. Just an observation.

I think it was credited to Shumer. Going back I can't ind the direct quote I am looking for just modified positions of fighting some of the Cabinet picks, which is a reasonable position and probably should be done for some of them.

I did find this from Ellison that is more in lie with what I recalled for Shumer. He is in line to be the DNC so it carries some weight.
dailycaller.com/2016/12/03/dem-rep-ellis...vote-no-under-trump/

I found a ton of opinion pieces saying that the Dems should do that, but they were just opinion pieces and don't carry a great deal of weight for me.